"To Thine Own Self Be True..."
A Fresh Start Counseling Service, LLC
"I want to feel
sunlight on my face,
see the dust cloud disappear
without a trace.
I want to take shelter
from the poison rain..."
Where The Streets Have No Name- U2
To make the most of your therapy, putting what was learned in counseling sessions in to real life is a must! Forty-five minutes in therapy each week will not fix all things for you; it’s how you use these learned “tools” after counseling that empowers change.
Make Healthy Lifestyle Changes. There are many things available in daily life to support mood and improve emotional health. Reach out to others for support. Get plenty of exercise and sleep. Eat well. Make time for relaxation and play. The list goes on and on…
The Therapist Does Not Dictate. You and I are partners in recovery. A therapist guides and makes suggestions for treatment, but it is you, the client, who ultimately makes the changes needed to move forward.
Commit to Treatment. Skip sessions only in emergencies. Be sure to complete your homework assignments. If sessions are skipped, consider why. Are you avoiding painful discussions or emotions? Did the last session touch a nerve for you? Discuss any feelings of reluctance in your sessions
Did You Know? Our circumstances account for only about 10 percent of our happiness. Another 50 percent comes from a person's internal makeup, composed of genetics, temperament, and constitution. This means 40 percent of our happiness comes from what we control...behaviors, thoughts and intentional practices. The things we do on purpose.
Myths About Therapy
I don't need a therapist. I'm smart enough to solve my own problems. We all have our blind spots. Intelligence has nothing to do with it. Therapists don't say what to do or how you should live. An experienced outside perspective is helpful in gaining insight so you make better choices.
Therapy is for crazy people. Therapy is for people who have enough self-awareness to realize they need a helping hand, and want to learn tools and techniques to become more self-confident and emotionally balanced.
All Therapists want to talk about is my parents. Family relationships can help to clarify thoughts and behaviors later in life, but personal history is not the sole focus of therapy. The primary focus is changing unhealthy patterns and symptoms you are experiencing. Therapy is not about blaming, it is about discovering.
Therapy is self-indulgent. It’s for whiners and complainers. Therapy is hard work! Complaining doesn't promote progress. Improvement in therapy comes from reevaluating your life and taking responsibility for any actions you have taken. Therapists help and guide, but ultimately you, the client, must do the work.
"Three things will last forever - faith, hope, and love - and the greatest of these is love." -The Apostle Paul
1 Cor. 13:13 (NLT)
Making the Most of Counseling